Why Life is Good
Life is good or bad, depending on where you are or who you are standing by. The question becomes a little more complicated as you consider where you are going or have been.
A person's goodness in life consists of how external things impact the person and how the person impacts everything around them. Goodness can also be present or lacking in a person's consciousness. For goodness to be present, there must be a value created.
On the other hand, the question of the meaning of life today, or maybe tomorrow, could be that day by day, somehow, we might qualify for what our status might be after death. It's a journey of self-reflection and understanding. So, for them, the meaning might be “each day.” It could be added that one should find out what is wanted for the best situation after death and then do it.
Looking around at what life is about each day, it is hard to discount that life is full of other people. Yes, many are weird. Others will have opinions about us and whether our actions make sense. But in these interactions, there is a potential for personal growth. Perhaps even the weirdo may have an idea of how others treat them compared to how they treat others. This being the case, it works in favor of concluding that the meaning of life is in how we treat others.
Intellectually Arrogant People See Themselves as The Master of a Particular Subject →
by Brent M. Jones (Published on LinkedIn in May 2024)
Arrogance can be positive if it involves breaking stereotypes and stepping outside one's comfort zone, but that isn’t usually the result.
Intellectual arrogance is a set of characteristics that tends to blind an otherwise intelligent person from recognizing and learning the truth. Intellectual humility is the recognition that the things you believe in might be wrong; a benefit of intellectual humility is the recognition that one's perspective will always be limited.
This recognition leaves a person well-positioned to learn as much as possible from peers and subordinates. Examples of intellectual humility: I question my opinions, positions, and viewpoints because they could be wrong. I reconsider my thoughts when presented with new evidence. I recognize the value in views that are different from my own. I accept that my beliefs and attitudes may be wrong. I am willing to learn from younger people with less experience, often referred to as reverse mentors. An example of this would be those who are technologically savvy or skilled in something new or different.
Intellectual Arrogance is not just a personal trait; it's a barrier to your growth. When you believe you're superior to others, you expose yourself to new knowledge and experiences. This self-imposed isolation can hinder your professional and personal development, preventing you from reaching your full potential.
In an Inc. Magazine article titled "Only One Thing Will Hold You Back From Achieving Great Things in Life," Warren Buffett states that the one bad habit of paying close attention to is ”Intellectual Arrogance” and ignoring it becomes self-destructive in the long run, and not doing something to rid yourself of it may hold you back
The need to show people you think you're smarter than they are is one way to derail yourself from building solid relationships. To counter the effects of intellectual arrogance, the most intelligent people stretch their knowledge by being open to soaking up philosophical wisdom or even just inside the latest developments of others.
In other words, being clever without arrogance means acknowledging that you don't know everything. Because, let's face it: if you're the most intelligent person in the room, you're in the wrong room.
A Master Communicator Influenced This New Book 33 years later →
Listening to a Master Communicator Influenced My New Book 33 Years Later. The article was originally posted on Brent Jones’s LinkedIn Newsletter.
Brent M. Jones is a Published Author, Writer, Speaker, Career Development Advisor, Consultant, and Experienced Business Executive
It has been 33 years since the day I sat by Stephen Covey, preparing to speak ahead of him. I just completed a new book, Mastering the Art of Communication: The Power of Precision in Language, and that experience and some thoughts about it served as chapter one.
Seeing how Covey’s The 7 Habits book is still doing now impresses me as an author. Back in 1990, it had just come out. I had read it several times, and my path had crossed Mr. Covey before, but look at his Amazon Book Stats.
Mastering the Art of Communication: The Power of Precision in Language - Chapter 1: Listening to a Master Communicator
I learned some valuable lessons about effective communication firsthand from a master communicator. One Sunday in 1990, I had the privilege of speaking at the same event as Stephen R. Covey and sitting next to him in the speaker area. He was a guest speaker at a church meeting, where I was also assigned to speak.
Stephen Covey was in every way a master communicator and a renowned author. He was named one of Time magazine's 25 most influential Americans in 1996, and his book, which had just come out, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People," has so far sold over 40 million copies worldwide since its first publication in April 1989
The experience taught me how a speaker can capture an audience's attention and what makes communication more powerful through the speaker's skills.
Covey was different in front of an audience than privately. We visited before the meeting started and while sitting together. I knew several people who worked with him who had said that the speaker and the everyday man were very different men. It seemed to me visiting with him that he was exciting and indeed a good man, but besides his relaxed presence and bald head, he didn't stand out. Our conversation was low-key and casual.
When he stood up to speak, everything changed. He was charismatic and purposeful, and every eye was on him. His messages demonstrated his deep understanding of people and an incredible memory of recalling relevant details often sparked by his surroundings. He spoke without notes and found powerful words to deliver his message and, when needed, instant recall from long past events. The day I spoke with him, he didn't use a slide deck (a collection of slides used as visual aids during a pitch or presentation). He did many business presentations and often had hundreds of slides he could have brought to a screen. He seemed to know each by number, calling the needed slides up by number. As I recall, he was also well-known for that skill.
Over the years, I have asked others who knew him what made him so charismatic. Some felt that his bald head made him stand out, drawing attention to him, while others believed that his use of power-packed words, incorporating data into his speech, and speaking spontaneously without notes were unique. Many have commented on how well-dressed he always was when speaking. The audience didn't take their eyes off him when he said or was in the room. He seemed to be
Covey's message to the young adults in the audience that day was inspiring. He knew his audience, spoke their language using powerful words, and delivered his message using familiar church-based terms. Covey understood their goals and talked to them, not just at them. His body language was fascinating, and he stood in a calm, relaxed, and respectful manner while moving his head and arms like a symphony conductor, bringing relevance to his words. He spoke without notes, maintaining eye contact with his audience. His credibility made Covey stand out, which is evident from his effort to learn and understand what he presented to young adults. It was indeed a masterful message.
As a skilled master communicator, Covey could adapt his style to different audiences. He spoke using the terms of this audience's faith and the setting they were in. In his book, he said, "Becoming a good communicator requires behaving and thinking in a certain way." He demonstrated this thought that day, clearly showing that he could adapt to find what the audience was listening for.
For my book, just released in ebook and paperback, the product description is:
This book will equip readers with the essential toolkit for becoming a Wordsmith. With the right words, readers can communicate effectively and express their thoughts, feelings, and ideas with clarity and precision. Inside, readers will find a comprehensive guide to understanding communication, effective communication, and how to improve communication skills.
The benefits of reading this book include:
- Unlocking the power of influential communication to establish meaningful connections
- Discovering the right words to make a lasting impression
- Transforming your life with the correct language
- Step-by-step instructions on how to become a Wordsmith
- Industry-specific terminology, search engine optimization, demographic analysis, and situational analysis
- Tips and tricks for effective communication
Mastering the Art of Communication: The Power of Precision in Language can be found on Amazon by clicking below
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People can be found on Amazon - click below
The Primary Function of Nonverbal Communication is to Convey Meaning →
The title of this article is also the title of Chapter 10 in my new book, soon to be released, “Mastering the Art of Communication: The Power of Precision in Language.”
The chapter begins: A primary function of nonverbal communication is to convey meaning by reinforcing, substituting for, or contradicting verbal communication. Nonverbal communication is also used to influence others and regulate conversational flow.
Your nonverbal communication cues—how you listen, look, move, and react—tell the person you're communicating with whether you care if you're being truthful and how well you're listening. Your nonverbal signals match your words and increase trust, clarity, and rapport.
We use nonverbal communication to:
• To Convey Meaning and Provide Information. ...
• To Regulate Interactions.
• To Express Our Identities.
• To Indicate Relational Standing.
People use this type of communication to:
• Contradicts verbal messages
• Reinforces or emphasizes the verbal message
• Regulate the flow of verbal communication
• Complements their verbal messages
• Substitute for their spoken words
Nonverbal communication is a crucial aspect of human interaction. It involves using body language, gestures, facial expressions, and other nonverbal cues to convey emotions, attitudes, and intentions.
Professor Mehrabian Albert Mehrabian, Ph.D. well known for his studies in nonverbal communication. He believes there are three core elements in the effective face-to-face communication of emotions or attitudes: nonverbal behavior (facial expressions, for example), tone of voice, and the literal meaning of the spoken word. These three essential elements, Mehrabian argues, account for how we convey our liking or disliking of another person. His particular focus is on the importance of such nonverbal ‘clues’ when they appear to conflict with the words used and the tone in which they are spoken. Mehrabian developed his early theories on this subject during the 1960s. Drawing on the findings of two experiments he conducted in 1967, he formulated the 7-38-55% communication rule.
Professor Mehrabian's findings as typically cited or applied:
• 7% of messages about feelings and attitudes are in spoken words.
• 38% of messages about feelings and attitudes are paralinguistic (how words are said).
• 55% of messages about feelings and attitudes are in facial expressions.
The Professor’s studies did not account for the profound changes in communication since the 1960s and assumed some things that likely changed the outcome.
For example, when he used test subjects, he had a speaker present a word, but he wasn’t asking about the words at all from those in the test, but rather the speaker’s intent. When asked that, the audience responded that it decoded the intent behind the speaker’s words from visual clues 55 % of the time and from the tone of voice 38 % of the time. Only 7 % of the time did the audience go to the actual words.
The words we use are less important than our feelings and attitudes about the words and, generally, when we present them. It is also clear that body language, especially eye contact and facial expressions, are far more influential than words.
Body language offers the speaker and the audience a great deal of insight into how words are received. The speaker also uses body language demonstrated by the audience to judge and moderate the impact they are making.
Your body language is directly related to your mind; according to Dale Carnegie, well known for his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and a renowned professor at Harvard University, stated that our body language not only impacts others but has a tremendous impact on our behavior.
Nonverbal language is the most honest form of communication because the body rarely lies. People will first believe the nonverbal when you say one thing and do another (when your verbal and nonverbal language is not aligned)
Posted on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/primary-function-nonverbal-communication-convey-meaning-jones
Is saying that soft skills are underestimated really an employment trend?
When you hear about “Upskilling” what they are saying is more than soft skills are needed. That new hard skills are felt to be necessary in todays evolving job markets?
Are they really more important than polishing and using your soft skills. That has been the push in recent years. The implication is that with economic uncertainty on the horizon, upskilling opportunities for the workforce will become a prominent retention strategy, demonstrating an organization’s desire to drive employee growth and development.
Organizations today have picked up on employee’s desire for continuous learning, and push to offer learning and development programs set in place.
Employers want to attract the best talent and many now believe that to do that a potential employee would be wise to cover any skill gaps that may have. The result is offering the opportunity to job seekers and employees to develop or learn new skills is a solution.
Technical skills constantly change, but soft skills remain with you throughout your career. That's because they are relevant, transferable and keep an individual highly employable.
Soft skills sets top leaders apart. Interpersonal communication, decision-making, time management and collaboration are all soft skills for employees and job seekers alike.
More News about Soft Skills
LinkedIn's Global Talent Trends report found that 92 percent of hiring professionals say soft skills matter as much or more than hard skills
Is Zillennial a real thing? Put simply, Zillennials are a micro-generation that sits in between Millennials and Generation Z. Ketchum Inc. defines GenZennials as those born from 1992 to 2000.
Power skills are soft skills rebranded as people skills and they're a top asset in today's workplace. If you want successful managers and leaders, you need them to have power skills. Power skills include traits such as emotional intelligence, integrity, empathy, communication, and more
Are Soft Skills Important? According to the Society of Human Resource Management's (SHRM) 2021-22 State of the Workplace report, 77% of HR professionals said that improving employees' soft skills was key to their organisations' future plans.
Why Millennials Lack Soft Skills. Because Millennials are so proficient and reliant on technology, many of them haven't properly developed other skills apart from working on digital device
The Secret to Networking and the Informational Networking Revealed →
I have written two books about Networking, and both used up space explaining the “informational interview.” In some ways, it is a surprise how these terms are just accepted, even in some cases understood, but so infrequently ignored when they would help.
This isn’t just for job seekers. It is what we do. You’re a lawyer with a big case but must understand what the other side thinks. You are a salesperson, and you need to understand who the real competition is and what they have. All your buddies at the hangout seem to have changed their attitude about you, and you don’t know why? Here it comes, the secret solution. Go ask. Of course, in some cases, you need to know who to ask.
Many years ago, going into sales and selling food to restaurants, I needed to know what they were buying. The easy solution I used then was to look in their garbage can. In some cases, it even told me who the competitors were.
Networking will likely take you places you never expected. Yes, garbage cans, but you will find meaningful connections everywhere. You know someone who knows someone. Remember, six degrees of separation is the idea that all people are six or fewer social connections away from each other. As a result, a chain of "friends of friends” can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps. This is also known as the “six handshakes rule.” In March 2023, I published “Networking With a Purpose The Informational Interview, Its Use, and Why it is a Valuable Tool.” The introduction page states:
“In the following pages, I explain the purpose of informational interviews, their benefits, and the strategies to build a network efficiently. Here you will find a step-by-step guide, including a list of sample questions to ask to feel confident embarking on this critical process in your journey. Rest assured, the skills and strategies detailed in this book will serve you long after they land you that coveted job (or answers about your lawsuit or competition) as a powerful weapon for long-term success.
Did I hear someone say, “Gosh, Brent, is that why you wrote this article today to sell your book” Of course not. (Amazon link amzn.to/3T50llg )
Career Change Considerations: Active - Passive Search, Loyalty, and Needed Research
This article is also included in CEM LinkedIn Articles Section as well as on LinkedIn on my newsletter site
Why do passive job seekers have an advantage over companies looking to hire? Fear of making a hiring mistake is the driving force behind this practice. It leads to some employers judging job applicants by their employment status, although it has nothing to do with their talent or ability. It seems clear that part of what drives this fear is that the hiring manager do not trust their own instincts
Good jobs are often filled by the HR department or a recruiter asking someone employed if they would consider a change or finding a candidate that looks like a great match on LinkedIn and even though they are employed reaching out to them to consider the job. (Strong hint here, keep your profile current)
The employer assumes in these cases that don’t need to worry about why the candidate really left their last job and that the person must have value since they have a job. The employer puts themselves in a postion of a buyer. They may overpay and find that they didn’t have all the facts they needed. A potential employee is in the position of a seller where they hae to present their case. They still make the decision on whether to take the job but they also have to present the reasons why they should get the job and in the case of a company approaching a currently employed person they have already taken the first step in the “buying” process.
These folks are called "passive candidates." They aren't even candidates for a job until someone from the employer reaches them out of the blue.
Why would any employer prefer someone a recruiter finds on LinkedIn -- someone who may never have heard of your company -- to someone who has invested time and energy in reaching out to you to inquire about employment?
These issues bring the subject of loyalty into some focus. Will the employee a company steals or entices to leave their current employer be loyal to them? Would a potential employee who research the market and determined that his best fit might be with a particular company be more loyal to that company because of the work it took in finding that job?
Does hiring ethics belong in this discussion? I am reminded of a friend who told me how he was hired away from another company around 1950. He was working for a company that sold to stores in San Francisco. He was well known and the bigger competitor had been impressed by his work. Things changed for him at his company and he approached the main competitor and was taken to the President of the company in his interview. My friend had taken a lot of their business and it was obivos that he would be a valuable new hire. The President saw it that way and hired my friend but under a special condition. The new hire was not allowed to call on any accounts, not just his own but any accounts in the area for one year, and was required to work in the warehouse. The reason was that the hiring company did not want to take advantage of their competitor. Non-compete clauses were not used at that time in this area and field but company ethics, when practiced, were all that was needed. My friend stayed loyal to this company and their President throughout his career from that point forward.
Work Matters, and Volunteers Matter, but the Benefits and Motivations will often Vary.
All work matters, but it isn't just the work itself that matters; all who contribute to it matter. All sides gain.
Volunteers do some work, but for most work, those doing the work are paid. Participants learn new skills, meet new contacts, and help get things done in both cases. Sometimes volunteers get things done that paid workers might not have done. With these benefits, you would expect a long line of volunteers from those out of work.
It is usually unknown who will be showing up to volunteer on a project, and those doing the work also often meet new people from various life backgrounds. Your connections with coworkers, suppliers, recipients, and organizations can make a difference to you long after the work is done.
Those receiving the benefit of the work done are lifted, improving their lives. Volunteering, working side by side with others, connect you to other human beings. When you volunteer, you are making connections. Paid for your time or not, always do your best in your work. It matters.
When you know, you have made a difference; you feel better about yourself. Therefore, taking pride in your volunteer work and doing your best work is essential.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it
This quote is by bestselling author Charles Swindoll. Another similar thought is from a Japanese proverb:
“Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
We must react positively to falling by returning up, even if it means falling again.
It is what is inside us that motivates us and keeps us going →
Starting at about four, my mother would have me kneel at my bedside and say my prayers. The importance of that part of my life story has changed over the years, and I see it differently. I value this experience, and I am grateful for it.
The early assumption that God was listening and that taking problems to him would be helpful has been a comfort, even without confirmation of having been heard at times. This sentiment is summed up well in a quote by C. S. Lewis: “Life with God is not immunity from difficulties, but peace in difficulties.”
Others have shared how they were taught similar lessons at a very young age by saying a prayer many are familiar with: “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray thee, Lord, my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take.” I have thought about this often: If a person dies and his soul is taken, what is the soul, and what exactly is taken?
If the soul is eternal and lives on when the body dies, it must be made of different materials. If that substance is spiritual, then where does it reside within our living bodies? Is it separate or part of our living flesh?
Some have referred to the soul as the seat or location of our character and emotions. It is sometimes explained as the spirit within a person and the person’s mental abilities, personality, feelings, memories, perception, thinking, and even skills. Wherever our soul goes, if our particular skills are needed, perhaps our work ethic learned in obtaining those skills is part of the package.
Whatever it is that will go with me, if I die before I wake, I want to understand as much about everything as possible and make sure my knowledge is worth taking along.
Louis Armstrong once said, “Musicians don’t retire; they stop when there’s no more music in them,” and “What we play is life.” What, then, is that music if you are not a musician? How did that music, or that passion, get to be inside us?
Armstrong is saying that music is a part of his work ethic and life and is needed to exist. This leaves the question of what our music might be and how we keep from losing it. I conclude that my “music - passion” and what makes me feel alive are family, reading, writing, and service, but these items have evolved g and changed as I look back over my life story.
Music can be a connection between our physical selves and our very souls. We feel the music. It reflects our hearts. Music with scriptures are hymns, and we worship through hymns. The feelings of our hearts are conveyed in prayer with music.
Our bodies and faces reflect the images of happiness and sadness. Music and singing open up those feelings. Sometimes we sing for what we long for, using music to help us get by without the necessary things.
What do we long for? What do we have a passion for? Love and kindness are passions that can focus on us and drive our actions. We lose ourselves in those feelings; for some, opportunities for service to others reflect their hearts. When applicable passions fill our minds, we have a little place to worry about ourselves.
For each of us, what we play, rather than music, can be whatever we love. It can be anything we choose, but we need to feel passionate about it. If you’re lucky enough to love knowledge, learning, or service, then you are indeed blessed. That, like the music for Louis, never stops being an option.
Intellectual arrogance can blind an otherwise intelligent person to recognizing the truth →
Intellectual arrogance is a set of characteristics that tends to blind an otherwise intelligent person from recognizing the truth. Intellectual humility is “the recognition that the things you believe in might be wrong,” A benefit of intellectual humility is the recognition that one's perspective will always be limited. This recognition leaves a person well-positioned to learn as much as possible from peers and subordinates.
Examples of intellectual humility
I question my opinions, positions, and viewpoints because they could be wrong. I reconsider my thoughts when presented with new evidence. I recognize the value in views that are different from my own. I accept that my beliefs and attitudes may be wrong.
These thoughts were presented in Inc Magazine’s article: “Warren Buffett: Only 1 Thing Will Hold You Back From Achieving Great Things in Life.”
Buffett discusses the one bad habit to pay close attention to that could become self-destructive in the long run. He adds that not becoming aware of this bad habit, “intellectual arrogance,” and doing something to rid yourself of it may hold you back.
The need to show people that you think you're smarter than they are is one way to derail yourself from building solid bonds.
To counter the effects of intellectual arrogance, the most intelligent people stretch their knowledge by being open to soaking up the philosophical wisdom of others. In other words, being clever without arrogance means acknowledging that you don't know everything. Then seek knowledge from those who may know more than you do.
Because, let's face it, if you're the most intelligent person in the room, you're in the wrong room.”
What to Read Next and Why?
The question of what to read next comes up over and over throughout our lives. Some offer answers but don’t explain why their choices should be of value to us—so understanding the why is the more complex question.
A successful fiction and fantasy writer, Neil Gaiman doesn’t hesitate to suggest an answer and offer a why; he said, “Fiction is the gateway drug to reading.”
He added that fiction drives us to want to know what happens next, and it becomes exciting and satisfies the excitement as we turn the pages.
When we read fiction, it increases our imagination and results in our finding something new of interest. The new things we find may lead us in a direction such as science, history, or art. So we could look for a biography of a person with an area of similar interest to our own.
Often the path to the next book, or even choosing one to re-read, is built on past choices. Years ago, I watched the movie “Apocalypse Now.” That led me to reread Joseph Conrad’s “Heart of Darkness,” set in Africa with the same basic plot. The book was considered one of Conrad’s best.
Some criticized Conrad’s book for having a white man’s perspective on life in Africa. I wanted to find another view. I wondered if there were good African writers that I could read. At that point in my life, I had never looked for African writers. I looked and found many good ones who were respected for their work. I found several authors of interest. At the time, Chinua Achebe emerged as a well-known African author for his book “Things Fall Apart.”
It seemed to be the perfect “other point of view” I was looking for. This book is indeed something that should be read by anyone who reads “Heart of Darkness” and wonder if they have seen Africa correctly.
The question is still what to read but answering the why is easier. Reading is good for you because it improves your focus, memory, empathy, and communication skills. It can reduce stress, improve your mental health, and help you live longer. Reading also allows you to learn new things to help you succeed in your work and relationships.
Proactive Management is a Leadership Style that Emphasizes Strategic Planning and Risk Management →
Proactive management is a leadership style that emphasizes strategic planning and risk management rather than taking a reactive approach to situations and business goals.
“If you're proactive, you focus on preparing. If you're reactive, you end up focusing on repairing.” - Quote by John C. Maxwell
Proactive management can be applied to any industry through leadership that emphasizes planning and forward-thinking by seeking out new opportunities for the company and dealing with any threats or problems before they even emerge.
An article in the Journal of Business and Psychology Vol. 29, No. 1 (March 2014) by Diane M. Bergeron, Tiffany D. Schroeder, and Hector A. Martinez titled “Proactive Personality at Work: Seeing More to Do and Doing More?” states:
“that a “proactive personality is a stable personality related to taking personal initiative and behaving proactively.”
Proactive people don't see challenges as having the final say, as they keep their focus on solutions. As a result of early action, they typically have confidence as they face the future. This gives them a sense of calm about the future and composure when facing obstacles
Finding Inspiration Involves Taking Action That Then Leads to Inspiration →
Many wait for inspiration to act, but it won’t come because it is the other way around. Action triggers ideas that lead to inspiration. Start with something in your emotional periphery and take the first step. Make a call, write an outline, or volunteer just once. The process and inspiration will unfold before you.
When motivation is at odds with inspiration, continue.
Inspiration is about a person reaching a point of wanting to act, whereas motivation is more about giving people reasons to take action.
Inspiration is an act of influencing people mentally and emotionally to do something creative. Motivation is something that compels or persuades you to take action. Inspiration is what pulls you towards something.
A highly motivated person takes an idea, goes out there, and won't let anybody interfere with them—that person who isn’t going to stop along the way but keeps going down the road.
What about someone who will stop on the road somewhere and seemingly be drawn off course? Perhaps what stopped them on the road was an inspiration. Unlike motivation, inspiration works in precisely the opposite way. If the reason is when you get hold of an idea and carry it through to its conclusion, inspiration is the opposite because an idea gets hold of you and takes you to a place that inspires people to think is the better direction.
Does this mean that motivation is a distraction from inspiration?
To find the answer to this question, we have to stop and think about it, but then that would answer the question and ignore the fact that the motion involved in motivation makes it easier for inspiration to find us.
Either way, it seems clear that motivation and inspiration are connected.
Effective Communication brings people closer together or ensures that they don’t get closer. →
Effective communication requires you to become an engaged listener. That means changing the usual focus of trying to listen to decide what to say next. Listening well will help you understand the words being communicated, but a person needs to learn how to understand the emotions conveyed.
When you listen, you’ll hear more than just words; you will hear the feelings in someone’s voice and understand that more than terms are being communicated and how a person feels about those words are more important.
Listening this way lets the other person know they were heard and understood. Resulting in a better connection.
What is being communicated often has nothing to do with the words, and the real intention (motive) can be a concern if known.
Snakes have motives
Retired Rattlesnake Roadside-Romeo was on a dirt road in rural Arizona. On the other side of the road was a chicken.
So, he hollers, "Hey there! Babe! I don't usually talk with random chicks, but you should know I am a hundred years old. Do you want to know the secret to long life?"
The chicken is intrigued and asks, "Well, what is it? Tell me"
Roadside-Romeo replies, "What'd you say? Can't hear you."
The chicken says, "What is the secret to long life?"
Roadside-Romeo says, "What, babe? Whatcha sayin'?"
So, the curious chicken crossed the road.
And went near Roadside-Romeo's ear and yelled, "What is the secret to long life?"
Roadside-Romeo hissed and rattled and replied, "Oh!!! The secret is - Don't talk to strangers!"
And in one quick swoop, the snake pounced and swallowed the bird.
And smugly, he thought, "Amazing, I can still pick up chicks with that joke!"
“Effective Communication is not just for good guys.”
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Learning from the "public-spirited-bird- approach" →
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A post on October 9th titled "Why, Why, Why do things happen?" featured a picture of a chicken crossing the road at the beginning and then discussed the subject: Why. The answer was suggested that it could be concerning the cause or reason something is done. (Chicken crosses the road?) Sometimes these reasons are called goals, and some are called problems: either way, the attempt to find out why can involve receiving advice.
Today's post involves geese flying in formation. Of course, if you live near someone like me who lives by a lake, you will notice that sometimes both sides seem even and others do not.
Why are there more birds on one side of the V? The simple answer is that geese care about each other. They relieve each other in intervals. Sometimes when geese or other birds are flying in formation, one side of the V has many more individuals and looks like a wedge. This is because they seldom fly directly into the wind, making the formation's downward part easier.
This "bird-public-spirited" approach doesn't stop with the formation. The decision of which bird leads the V formation is also made out of concern for the whole team. The flock of birds will share the lead of the V and rotate throughout the migratory flight. Therefore, as the leaders tire, they fall back into the community, and the birds behind will take over. This indicates that the lead would often change during a very long flight. Leadership is shared, and each takes a turn at it.
What lesson is evident from this short article? The lesson here is that with a team working together to reach a common goal, the group will gain momentum from the first push, continue supporting each other, and develop strategies, values, and action plans. In a V-formation, the whole flock extends at least 71% more flying range than if each bird flew alone.
An obvious question would be, why would any intelligent goose want to lead the formation and work twice as hard? The answer has to do with fairness, not just goodwill. The time a bird leads a formation strongly correlates with the time it can profit from flying in another bird's wake. The birds match the time they spend in the wake of each other by frequent pairwise switches of the leading position. They cooperate because it is in their own best interest.
An obvious conclusion would be to ensure your teams are set up and functioning reasonably.
Networking, Make it Real →
Networking Everyday Event
We have already reached the time when an algorithm can analyze the data of those you connect with to identify interests, career goals, and general experiences. This information can match the user to contacts, making the networking process more efficient.
Professional networking will foster connections and keep you updated on current trends & conversations in your field and areas of interest. They can help you access connections you would not necessarily have gotten offline.
In an article published by Indeed’s Editorial Team on March 15th, 2021, “Top Networking Skills You Should Have (And How To Improve Them),” these three skills were presented as steps you can take to improve your networking skills
1. Practice improving communication habits:
Improve your networking skills by practicing good communication habits. Maintain eye contact when speaking with someone and nod your head in understanding or agreement. Use simple, straightforward language, ask questions and invite opinions. Please pay attention to the body language of the person you're speaking with to make sure they understand and confirm whether they agree or disagree.
2. Ask friends for constructive feedback:
Consider asking friends how you're coming across in conversation. Understanding where you can improve can help you improve your communication style, which can significantly impact your networking skills.
3. Attend networking events:
One of the best ways you can improve your networking skills is to practice them regularly. Attend networking events and focus on building a genuine human connection with the people you meet. Ask questions that show you're genuinely interested in getting to know the person you're speaking with, and listen closely to the answer while maintaining eye contact. Respond with relevant questions to show you were listening. Focus on the quality of the relationships you're having rather than the quantity.
Still, the most important thing to remember is that networking is a two-way street.
Make it real, and do what that requires, giving and taking to build trust.
Staying in contact with your new connections is needed, and looking for ways to help them achieve their goals will develop and strengthen the relationship. It works best one on one because both sides can participate equally.
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